Because if I weren't I think I'd have developed a complex by now. Why you ask? Because two of Hubby's three younger siblings are preggo right now! As in his 24 year old sister is married and 5 months pregnant with her second child and her first is eight months old. And his 21 year old brother is getting married in two months and just found out they're pregnant. I cannot tell you how incredibly proud I am of his last sister who's not pregnant, despite all of her friends having had kids (with deadbeat dads of course).
I'm super proud of Hubby and his accomplishments, he's the only one of his siblings to go to college and then of course the only one to get a graduate degree. On the flip side, he's the second to get married. And we'll be the third (probably, out of four in total) to have kids. Hubby says he doesn't care, doesn't see any reason to compare himself to anyone let alone his siblings. I kind of believe him. I've got no one to "compete" with and I'm still stressing about our "position" among his siblings about these big life moments.
I'm not trying to be judgmental, I mean I know I am, but I know my feelings don't apply to everyone and every situation. I just feel kind of strongly about his siblings and the major life decisions they're making and the utter likelihood that they'll end in a fiery plane crash of a disaster.
To get a bit personal (like I haven't already?!) it makes me wonder how so many people make seemingly bad decisions and yet life works out for them. (Why yes being poor and having no support let's plan to have a child and manipulate things to use government aid in all of this, that's a great plan! I will never say, EVER.) Hubby and I always make the rational, adult, right decision and while our life is great it seems to take us so much struggle to get what we have. You know it's the usual "the grass is greener" and "I want to be part of the popular group" mentality. Why can't we just be a part of the popular group!?! Okay, yes I can get over myself, sorry!
I should also say that all of Hubby's siblings are half siblings and he spent significantly more time with his younger sister (the not pregnant and not married sister) than he did with his other sister and brother. Rationally I think said sister and brother see Hubby as more of a cousin than a sibling. That makes sense considering they don't speak, no phone calls or cards or emails or facebook messages. Neither of them attended our wedding (they were invited with almost a year notice). His sister never told us she got married and we found out about her being pregnant (both times) from Hubby's Mom. We found out his brother was dating a girl and got engaged, and then just this week found out they're pregnant all (yep you guessed it) from his Mom and not actually his brother. You know, the opposite of "normal" sibling things.
This was supposed to be a comical announcement of my almost not really freak out. And thanking (for once) I'm an only child. Sorry it turned in to a bit of a ranting vent. Anyone out there experiencing anything similar?
